Online Dating Tips
Try the following tips as a guide to online dating success – finding the perfect person for you!
1. Make an eye catching ad in your unique style.
Write an original headline. And add some humor if you can. Do some research and check out other’s ads. See what attracts you to other ads then use a similar style with your own. Be uniquely YOU.
2. Use a good quality photo
Pictures are worth a thousand words so make sure you include a good quality photo. Make sure the photo reflects what you really look like to avoid first-date disaster!
3. Be Honest
When placing an ad or replying to an ad makes sure you tell the truth about yourself.
4. Know what you are looking for
Are you looking for a long-term commitment? A fling? A rebound date? Friendship or maybe just someone to share a similar hobby?
Tailor your ad to attract those who are looking for the same thing.
5. Be Positive
Nobody wants to date Negative Nelly. Be positive and friendly and don’t say anything that could be misconstrued. Structure your messages like a conversation.
6. Be Specific.
List of your positive points, interests and whatever is important to you, then tell them about it in your online dating ad. Be short but clear!
7. Use dating Sites with a reputable record and good database.
See The Directory: Dating Sites, Services and Reviews (link)
9. Remain Anonymous
Do not give out your real email address, last name, phone number, address or workplace details. See our section on Dating Safety
10. be careful and take precautions when meeting someone for the first time.
Meet in a public place and bring friends. See our section on Dating Safety (link).
Ten Brilliant First Date Ideas
Not another pub, café or restaurant please! Make a statement on your first date with something out of the ordinary, keeping in mind what you are both interested in.
1. Attend an opening night to a theater performance or musical. Or book an evening at a comedy club or gay cabaret!
2. Go for a joyride! Helicopter, small plane or balloon flights are all good ideas for a date. Night flights can be spectacular, or imagine watching the sun rise in a balloon. Make sure your date is not scared of heights.
3. Visit a country pub in a luscious setting, or attend a wine tasting night in a romantic country house.
4. Hit the Great Outdoors. This idea is perfect if you are both sporty types. Pack a picnic and pick a place that is not too far away but has great scenery. Try a picturesque walk or cycling trail.
5. Go punting. Find a picturesque place where you can hire rowboats and row your date down a river, perhaps packing a bottle of wine and some poetry for ultra-romantic types.
6. Take a dance class together. Try street Latin, salsa or swing. Remember to keep your Elvis moves to a minimum.
7. Spend the afternoon at an amusement park. Being like children and letting your hair done can be ingredients for optimal date success!
8. Fly a kite. Find an open space and make sure it is a windy day. Or just go to the park. Feed the ducks, pack a gourmet picnic and enjoy each others company.
9. Hire a sports car and go for a drive in the country. Make sure you take great driving tunes.
10. Visit the beach at night. Light a small bonfire, but candles would be just as romantic. Arrive just before sunset so you can watch the sun go down
Never Be Late
Whatever you do, don’t turn up late. Turning up late will send out all the wrong impressions that you definitely don’t want her to think. Not only will she think that she has been stood up, but she will also think that you are unreliable. Five minutes early is the earliest you should arrive. Any earlier and she’ll peg you as an eager beaver – not well.
Be a Gentleman
Even the most modern chick appreciates a gentleman. Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, be polite to her and people around you. Making her feel special by treating her like a lady will score BIG points.
Prepare
The last thing you want is to be sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her and in return what you would like her to know about you. Try and think of any questions that she might ask you so that you can prepare the answer. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like.
Listen and Be Interested in Her
Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. There is nothing more that a woman likes is when someone is interested in what she has to say.
Compliment Her – Honestly.
The first thing to say to her is that she looks beautiful. A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful and to think that you are attracted to her. Keep up the compliments throughout your date, but be careful do not go overboard -3-4 for the night should be more than enough. Be honest though, women have a knack for sensing insincere compliments.
Who will pay?
This is a really tough question as now women are more independent and like to pay their way. You should offer to pay and if she lets you, then pay. If she wants to pay, you can argue that you want to or at least pay for half the bill.
The Goodnight Kiss
There is no easy answer to this question some women prefer not to kiss after a first date, while others may be put off if the guy doesn’t even try. Base your decision on her body language and chemistry throughout the night. If it doesn’t feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate. If it does, then you may want to consider making the move.
I’ll Call You
If you do like her and are interested, then you must let her know. Do not, under any circumstances, tell her you will call her if you are not interested and have no plans to call her. Only tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. In this case, you could just say good night, smile and walk a way, or a simple “it was nice meeting you”.
Making an Effective Online Profile
1. Be Clear on What You Want
Be clear when writing in your profile what you are looking for in order to weed out the unsuitable candidates. This immediately improves the chances of the type of communication you will have with potential dates.
While many men will deem themselves the “exception” to Mary’s new rule, others will fully respect what she is looking for and leave her alone if they do not fit into that category.
2. Let Interested People Know How to Take Action
Since there are so many ways to express an interest in others with so many sites these days have smiles, hot lists and friend lists, virtual flowers, etc., it could help a potential match if you told them what to do should they be interested in communicating with you.
By adding that statement, I’ve taken the pressure off women who may find my profile interesting, but they aren’t paid members. A woman viewing my profile now knows that sending me a smile is a sign that she’d like to hear from me and if she’d rather initiate the email then she knows I don’t mind paying for it.
3. Use the Subject Header Wisely
Many sites require a profile subject header, which can be difficult to write. If this is the case, then use it as a filter. Using our Lucy example, she has already clearly stated in her profile the type of person she wants to communicate with. Yet some men apparently don’t know how to read when it comes to profiles. Therefore the subject header is a good place to reemphasize what you’re looking for. Here’s an example
4. Use Proper Communication Grammar
Unless you are using an Adult Dating site, many women are turned off by men they don’t know who, start referring to them in terms like “babe,” “sexy,” etc. Refer to the person by their profile name to avoid any problems.
5. Be Original, Be Yourself
Think about what best describes you and the kind of person you’d like to attract. Try not to use clichÈs like: I like long walks in the country and getting caught in the rain. You could also mention what you don’t want: like smokers, or men who hate animals for instance.
Ten Decent Ways to Break Up
Breaking up really is hard to do, but sometimes it just has to be done. Here are 10 tips on how to break up with decency and grace.
1. be honest.
Try not to use the old cliché “it’s me not you.” This might be easier; the only way you can truly help your partner is by being completely honest.
2. Don’t drag it out. Do it as soon as possible. When it is over, it’s over. You’re not doing your partner or yourself any favors by delaying the inevitable.
3. Don’t be too abrupt. Allow your partner to have his say.
. How you would feel if you where the one being dumped? Don’t expect to end the relationship with your partner wanting to leave it at that, especially if it has come out the blue. Your partner will want to ask questions and may even try and talk you into changing your mind. This will give you the chance to explain in full why you want to end the relationship.
4. Can we be friends? We don’t think so. Not for a while at least. Don’t expect to be friends after a break up. Your friendship likely can never be the same again. Even if you were friends before you became intimate.
5. Don’t overlap. Seeing someone else before you tell your partner that it is over is just bad news all around. It not only makes you look bad, but will also plant seeds of doubt in your new partner.
6. Don’t pick a fight. Get to the point and don’t make your partner suffer more than necessary.
7. Write a Letter. Writing a letter explaining why you want to break up may be a good way to get your feelings in order for both of you. But do deliver it in person, and be there to talk with your partner afterward.
Don’t feel guilty. If you want out, then no matter how much your partner begs…“I’ll change….” “I’ve done so much for you.. blah blah , stick to your decision before things get worse. The “chucked” party usually resorts to guilt tactics to make you stay and prolong the whole sorry business.
9. Don’t do it in a public place. Even if you no longer like your partner, the worse thing you can do is dump him/her in a public place. It is the ultimate humiliation.
10. Leave as you would like to be left. Being dumped is no picnic. If the tables were turned, how would you want to be treated? Remember the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
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